Oh my goodness
Niceman111, you make me cry. Please, don't think so poorly. You said you live in NYC - yes, it's more difficult there. I agree with your initial statement regarding this. But I have lived around the country, and there are plenty of nice women looking for a man this is as you describe yourself. After all, there are more women here than men, in our country - the challenge should be for us, not you!
It's a big country - heck, a big world -and with modern technology to shrink it enough for us to make a contact in just about any place we choose, we have too many options to give up as it sounds you have.
It sounds to me as though you have a lot going for you, too! The fact to be employed in this current situation, it's something to be thankful for and proud of! What is average looking to some is incredibly handsome to another - so do not sell yourself short on looks. We have such varying taste. Grossemite mentioned this, and he is absolutely correct.
I hate also to hear you speak of your life as so monotonous and meaningless. This is my very point to Monkey - you have to put the meaning there, and enjoyment in order to attract a woman! Drive to the Poconos, take up hiking, get involved in some activities you enjoy. I do not know you, but from your writing, it is possible women now feel this void and sadness in you, and it is nothing they want to be a part of - this is why you have to find happiness outside of another person and with your own life, first. Then you will be in a position to start a fantastic relationship, because women will see a happy confident man.
Think of the positive of your situation - especially with no children - you have freedom to do things that many married fathers do not! So, you can live it up, for now!