MANUTDFan wrote:rafale, whats more important in mans size, length or girth?

I probably don't have the experience to answer on a personal level, other than with some sex toys and limited partners, and from conversations with some of my friends. Here is what I do know.

The first man I was with, he was large - well above average. It was very exciting from a visual standpoint, but to be honest, the sex was rather uncomfortable for me and I did not have any pleasure in it. Of course we never tried anal, I mean just vaginal sex. Part of this may have been that he was very mechanical, also, and I never was worked into a sexual frenzy like my boyfriend now can do to me.

The man I am with now, he is just an average in size, but I like this very much! First, I can do a lot more with it in giving him oral sex - which I enjoy immensely. Second, it's never uncomfortable, but it's still plenty to give me a stretching sensation when he enters me, I mean I can really feel him "filling me up". Third, even anal sex is highly enjoyable and while I might be walking funny the next day, it's not horribly painful or anything like that.

Now, as far as girth, both these men were pretty close - just one was much longer.
I have a toy now that is a close in length to my boyfriend, but a wider girth. I like it but to me, the head is too big. It takes me a little bit to work it in, and it's difficult to get the head in anally. (right, Spanishfan? )

I have one friend who's husband is really small in length, but about average girth (I can unfortunately confirm this as true. Damn Halloween parties...). She is very satisfied with him, and tells me all the time how great he is in bed. They have been together 15 years, (and she cheated in him only once) so I think she must be telling the truth!

I can go on and on with these other stories and things my friends have told me, but you get the picture. With sex, remember everyone is unique, but quite honestly, it is far more what you are doing with your penis than the size that matters.

For us, the main thing is how the man turns us on, and how he makes us feel even prior to the actual sex. It's about reading the movements and expressions of the girl you are with and responding to them. Once she is worked up to this point, she is not even thinking of the size of the penis.

Also, different positions can minimize/maximize the effect of the penis size. For instance, with my ex, I prefer to be on top, because I could better control how far it was going in, and could keep it within my comfort zone. Of course, the problem, from an emotional standpoint, I hate to be on top in many cases.

With an average size, my wonderful bf now can put me in any position and it's not only comfortable for me, but it changes the feel and the pleasure of the sex.

I hope that helps!

Alot of great details by rafale

I didnt realise that the size of a penis can effect what positions can be done. Raf, you said that from "emotional standpoint, I hate to be on top in many cases" what do you mean by that?

If you dont mind me asking, whats the girth of the boyfriend u are with? And who is Spanishfan!? Lol!

What I mean about being on top is that in many instances, it's not the position I feel most comfortable in, not physically, but in my mind. It's not what I fantasize, when I am thinking of having sex. I prefer to be on the bottom, and feel his weight on me, and feel like I have less control. But, in this, all women are different, and the men, too. Some prefer to play as the woman is dominant.

I have thought about this a lot, and I think it's because I have to play a more dominant and secluded role in my business life. It's not really how I feel, as a person, so it's a bit like I am acting, or playing a role all day. It's quite exhausting, actually, to be someone you are not. So, I think I tend to overcompensate in my personal life and am very comfortable feeling he has all the control - in sex and pretty much everything else.

Again, this is very different person to person, and its why it is so important to read the girl you are with and quickly analyze what she likes.

I do like to be on top if it feels as if he is "making me" do this. If I am on top, usually he lifts my hands and tells me to play with my nipples, this really makes me excited, because it's taking away some control - like it's not my choice.

I hope this makes sense, it's a bit difficult to explain!

To be honest, I never measured the girth of my boyfriend, so I am not totally sure. Sorry to use this as a gauge, but we have all seen PW, I would say he is a little larger in girth than PW, and about the same in length.

BUT if you read my whole dissertation from the start, you will see I said it's unimportant if he know what he is doing! Of course we see that you know what you are doing (just like my boyfriend), so the size becomes irrelevant!

As always I say "size does not matter" .....

I said that size does not matter, because if you know how "and you know we do" is fine for something smaller, less noticeable than do less harm.

If this kind of compliments do you embarrass or annoy you, do not you'll never make them ..

Lady Oscar is right, of course! This photo is something of a nightmare, not a dream. As I said above with my ex, it's not comfortable, and you can't do as many things.

With anything, I am sure there are some woman that fantasize about something this size, and really enjoy it even in reality, but I think it's not the majority. This time I am in the higher percentile, not the lower!

Nice replies guys!

rafa i can see what u mean and how your work effects your sex life is very intriguing!

"but we have all seen PW, I would say he is a little larger in girth than PW, and about the same in length." yep, i know PW length is 17 cm but what is the girth PW?

And OMG at the horse pic! is that even real!?