I think the problem, there is no one reason - some women like it, but never actually feel "pleasure" from it. They enjoy the pain. Some women like the taboo, some the control factor...neptune wrote:I'm reading it trying to understand what makes anal sex pleasurable to a woman.
In a way, I like all these things about it, but I also find great pleasure in it. It not only feels fantastic, but when it first starts, there is that moment of discomfort as my body adjusts. It's a little pain, and at the same time I can feel his reaction, hom much he enjoys it. Then there is the fact that, no matter how small or "tight" a girl might be, there is nothing compares to this in vaginal intercourse. Because you feel litterally filled to the breaking point with this man, and that's just sooo hot

Again, there is a feeling of not having any control that is fantastic, too. I am not familiar with this particular reading you are doing, but I think this is a big down side to feminism. Most of us naturally want to feel, at some point, that we do not have to control the universe. I could right all night just about how this has effected sex, but I am sure you have a good understanding.
The first time, it's a little tough, but if you can get her to focus on the clitoris (hopefully one of you is stimulating this) and just relax, it's easy to get past the pain and truly enjoy it.